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Preparing for an ecstatic mutuality in sexual bonding

Dear Brother,

I expect you and Amy are having a good time preparing for your wedding.  I am looking forward to your wedding.

I want you and Amy to have a life-long sexual adventure that is infinity and beyond amazing!  So, even though you have not invited me, I am going to tell you what has been my own successful practice of amazing love-making and let you decide whether any of this applies to you and Amy.

#1 After the wedding, my wife and I spent an entire week alone.  We were sexually hungry for each other, and we wanted to give ourselves over to exchanging life-stories (What was the scariest moment in your life? Etc.) while naked together.  After each story exchange, we’d make love.  It was the most delicious week of my entire life.  For each meal, one of us would be blind-folded and the other would gently and carefully do the feeding.  After supper, we’d watch a favorite love movie.  My favorite was “Shakespeare in Love.” For my wife, Yimou Zhang’s “The Road Home.”  Then we’d make love again pretending we were the lovers in the film.  Sometimes, we never finished a film because we were so sexually excited that we would stop the film in order to do our role-playing.  At night, we slept together totally naked.  Generally we made love spontaneously in the middle of the night.

All in all, we made love five to eight times each day.  We kept a love journal that recorded the words, the feelings, the ecstasy of each new day.  We did not share our journals until our first anniversary.

 

#2 If you have not been sexually intimate already, I would suggest that you begin, already at this time, to pass through the stages of intimacy that will prepare you for an awesome sexual love life.  How so?

2a. I would strongly suggest that you would not plan to have sex with penetration on the night of your wedding.  Why so?  Because you will be unable to do so without anxiety and fear.  Because you will not be totally comfortable with touching each other.  Because you will not know what your partner needs to get bodily and spiritually aroused.

2b. For my wife and I, we spent six months discovering each other’s body, exchanging body massages, taking showers together, and sleeping together naked before we had our first orgasm.  You, given your special skills, could do this in one month.

2c. The practice of taking showers together was very satisfying and very important.  Our first shower together was in almost complete darkness.  Only a small candle was in the bathroom.  My Beloved decided when this would take place.  I wanted to give her the initiative and to tell her in the most graphic way possible, “I will never make love to you until you are entirely ready.”  The near-total darkness served to expand our sense of touch.  It also helped to overcome any shame that either of us might have felt with respect to being naked=vulnerable.  Here is what I wrote:

I turn on the tap and a generous flow of hot water shoots out of the shower head.  In a short time, the shower stall is filled with steam. I begin by letting my Beloved soak in the hot water and steam.  Then I cut the water and rub shampoo into her hair.  I overdo the shampoo so that there is plenty of soap suds left over to rub over her face and upper body.  There is no washcloth, so I use my strong hands to generously rub the soap into all the pores and crevices and to especially savor the soft roundness of her breasts and the firmness of her buttocks. Before I wash a new part of her body, I plant some kisses on that part first.  Her silent smile indicates that she likes this.

During all this time, my Beloved closes her eyes.  This helps her to relish the experience or to keep the soap from stinging her eyes.  Hearing her soft moans of delight inclines me to believe that the former option was true.  When I’m done, I turn on the hot water again and completely wash away all the soap.

Then it’s her turn to do me.  She follows my general pattern.  She turns off the hot spray and then generously shampoos my hair and begins to work down my body.  She is gentle where it is important to be gentle and rough where it is important to be rough.  When finished she soaks me and herself for five solid minutes in the spray of hot water and steam.  It’s lovely to be touched by her and, even more lovely, to be able to touch her body without any inhibitions.

Then we step out of the shower stall, and I grab a towel and rub her hair dry and then, with a fresh towel, I dry every part of her body, even the secret places between her toes.  She giggles when I recite “One little piggy went to market. . . .”  Then, with the two thin remaining towels, she dries my body with the same care and thoroughness that I gave her.

2d.  On the sixth day, we began sleeping together with pajamas.  It took a few nights to find a position where we could both fall asleep while touching.  We found that spooning each other (as shown in pic) worked best.  As the nights continued, we gradually moved toward sleeping naked.  We gave ourselves a period for sensual touching and for sensual kissing.  After three weeks, this included touching/massaging sex organs and kissing on the lips.

 

#3 Massage: After getting comfortable with nudity and touching, the time is ripe for exchanging massages. Go find a video, “How to give a massage,” on the internet.  <https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FQAGEY4greA>  Giving and receiving a massage is very beneficial because it gives the opportunity to discover tickle spots and tender spots.  Be spontaneous.  Use hair brushes to gently scratch the skin.  Slap the skin with an open hand.   Kiss, lick, bite.  Give some safety words: red = stop; yellow = this makes me uncomfortable; green = Oh, I would like more of this.   These three feedback words will become useful to signal to your partner what you are experiencing.

Gradually give some attention to the sexual organs.  Explore various ways of touching.  Then go to kissing, licking, sucking.  Discover what gives your partner pleasure!  Gradually move toward sexual arousal and orgasm.  This is a very important phase.  Since your partner is inactive, you get to decide how and when to pleasure him/her.  The ideal would be to arrive at the point where Amy can have an orgasm using only Lionel’s fingers and lips.  Amie, meanwhile, can discover how to advance toward your sexual arousal.

This is a foundational life-long achievement.  Most couples rush into sex and, in so doing, their sexuality takes on fixed patterns wherein the initiation of sex play usually always begins with the more assertive member—usually the man.  This is not a very satisfying situation in the long run.

Shakira Funny GIF - Shakira Funny Erotic GIFsA sensitive man wants to experience the sexual tiger in his wife.  He wants her to be sympathetic and cooperative, but not all the time. He wants her to be fierce at times.

Here is the poem I wrote that captures this:

I am surely not like those other men
who like their women to be tamed.

I want to preserve your wild side
and to shiver at your incessant growls.

I want you to wrestle naked with me
and to unleash your unbounded fury.

I don’t want you to always be a gentle lover,
but to seize and ripe out my heart sometimes.

I want to bleed when you squeeze me
and pull me apart and suck my bones.

I want to heal only when you bind my wounds,
and anoint my body with your aromatic juices.

I want to cry with you and laugh with you once a day
and to make silly faces and tickle you on Saturdays.

I am surely not like those other men
who like their women to be tamed.

 

There is a second reason why I wanted to give my Beloved an orgasm every time before my own.  A woman normally approaches love-making more organically and slowly.  On most occasions, she requires 15-20 of playful give and take before her vaginal canal is fully lubricated with her sweet juices.  A man, meanwhile, can prepare himself for penetration in three to five minutes.  If he rushes into penetration, he loses out in two ways: (a) he leaves his partner behind and she is unable (after his ejaculation) to catch up; and (b) he never acquires the patience and excitement of allowing his penis to rise and fall, to rise and fall, to rise and fall, in such a way as to enable him, after a half-hour, to experience an explosive orgasm that causes his whole body from the top of his head to his toes to shudder in sexual ecstasy WITH his partner.

Soyalerios Rawr GIF - Soyalerios Rawr Sexy GIFsWhen I, as a man, have guaranteed my Beloved the time and care to become a sexual tiger, she rewards me by arousing me WAY BEYOND MY EXPECTATIONS.

 

The rest of this is borrowed from another website.

Understand and always remember that sex is an act to be enjoyed. So I always take time to arouse her. I understand that penetration is just one of the sexual acts. There are many other exciting things that can be done to make her climax back-to-back. This is my way of doing it. This is the way I have always used. So it definitely works. In most of the situations, if used effectively & with imagination, your woman will surely have at least 3 or 4 pre-penetration orgasms and then she can have few more with penetration. The great thing about this way is that this will give her so many orgasms even before the act of penetration.

For me, being a man, female orgasm is as important as my own orgasm if not more. Also it makes my beloved so wild that she would return the pleasure in all the wild ways, without me asking for it. So I take penetration as just a final technique to give my beloved her final orgasm and I always use this outline that works for me every time.

#1 Start Arousing Her Mind & Having Foreplay with her

Start arousing her Mind even before you meet. Build the thrill. The more thrilled she is, the easier it is to give her multiple orgasms. Below texts are to let your imagination go wild –

“I have got something planned for later, and I think you will like it” “I don’t like sitting in office, when I could be doing things with you”, “I had the wildest dream last night”, ” Why can’t I just be lying beside you in bed instead of studying/working… 🙁”, “if I were there with you, I would have….” (this works like charm)

#2 Foreplay is super crucial.

Kiss Make Out GIF - Kiss Make Out Make Love GIFsMake out with her so good that she feels like a gorgeous princess.  Being a man you have to communicate how much you CRAVE every inch of her body by your hungry actions. Body language should clearly communicate your craving for her. Never let her relax from this moment onwards.  Be really really hungry for her, and make it absolutely clear to her how much you crave to be intimate with her.

#3 Take it slow.  Build the mutual craving.

Lips Touch GIF - Lips Touch Ttaa GIFsMake out with her. Take time. Take it slow. Build the energy. Build the craving. Build the sexual tension. Use sounds, touches, squeezes, words till she disengages and tells you “Let’s go to my car”, “let’s go to your room” or “Let’s go to some place quiet”

#4 Undress her gradually.

As you undress her gradually, keep licking & kissing the skin that gets revealed as you peal away her clothing.  Allow her to do the same for you (if this is her desire).

#5 Start with kissing, licking, nibbling her ears.

Couple Passionate GIF - Couple Passionate Romantic GIFs

#6 Suck on her nipples.

#7 Lick her stomach. Lick around her navel.

 

[When you begin licking between her legs, go ever so slowly when your tongue reaches out and touches her clitoris for the first time.  Be ready.  Her whole body might jump at the first contact.  If it does,  go down a few centimeters,  wet your tongue, and begin approaching more slowly.  Do this until she is totally comfortable with the pleasure she feels when your tongue plays with her clitoris.  This will work magic for her.  She will imagine you making slow contact with her clitoris a dozen times each day.  Her imagination will get her own juices flowing.  And every part of her body will be feeling an infinite gratitude for you as “the one and only man who knows how to make love to me down to the core of my being.”]

Lick and suck her pussy and clit & Give her first few orgasms with your tongue and sucking her clitoris.

And you will soon feel her squirm, twitch, moan, arch her back and fall back as you artfully bring her to the edge of her first orgasm.  Hold her hand.   Guide her slowly over the edge.   Read her bodily signals.  After she climaxes, reassure her that “Oh, I love the way your body responds to me.  But, this is just the beginning of our journey together.  My love for you is boundless. ”

If needed, you may need to pin her on the bed to keep her still.  [Keep in mind that you may be the first person who brings her such deep and loving pleasure with just your tongue.]  If needed, use some force to prevent her from pushing you away.  [Remember that she’s pushing you away because her pleasure is so new, so intense, so ecstatic.  If your Beloved is disorientated or afraid of this experience, go back to holding her and kissing her and ask her very quietly, “Help me understand what you have been feeling as I make love to you.”]

On the other hand, she might push your head onto her pussy, then trust me she really enjoys what you are doing and all you have to do is to continue doing that and soon she will have amazing back-to-back orgasms.   If this happens, then proceed to #8.  If it does not happen,  then hold her, kiss her, and reassure her that “the journey to mutual sexual enjoyment will come gradually and progressively.”

#8 Finger-Feel Her Sweetly

She deserves this as she will be super wet already with all the licking she’s received and, when she is totally comfortable with you,  then she will be so excited to give herself to you and to trust you completely and to have orgasmed a few times already.

Make sure you have neat manicured fingers and trimmed nails till the flesh of your finger is above the nail line. Feel her lips gently. Move your fingers along the edges of her lips

Once she starts to ooze so good, Insert one finger slowly and gently into her vagina [as shown in the pic above]. Curve it up with palm upward and feel for the soft, furry roof 3-5 cm. inside her vagina.  [This is the G-spot.] Take your time. Always be alert to her reactions. Now start moving the fingers as if you are calling someone near. Use one finger, then if she is comfortable use 2 fingers.

As you pick up your fingering pace, she might have a few more orgasms there and might even squirt.   If not, go  back to licking her lower lips and clitoris, to give her more pleasure while gently rubbing her G-spot as well.  This works like magic to bring her progressively toward convulsing orgasms.

#9 Tickle her G-spot until she orgasms a few more times.

Continue Fingering her fast till she chums again and even squirts. Feel her arch up, squelch, scream, shiver, shake and even squirt her juices. Watch her reactions before she cums and better still before she squirts. If your position allows reach out, lean and suck her nipples and bite her neck. See how it is done.

[Very few men and even fewer women have had any experience with squirting.  At first, one might be inclined to think that this is a form of peeing.  It isn’t.  When you have your first experience, you’ll see that the water in squirting has no odor and it is completely sterile; hence, you can rub your face in it and even drink it.  Needless to say, if one or both partners think “squirting” is peeing, then they will be ashamed and want to prevent it.   So, it’s best not to even think of squirting during the early phase of love-making.  If it happens, welcome it!  It is part of the natural release that comes with intense and prolonged love-making.  Hence, don’t make the mistake of trying to produce it.  It will come slowly and naturally. ]

#10  Now you’re ready to introduce your penis.

[Here is something that I have never done myself, namely, to allow my Beloved to make love to me and to bring my penis into play as she sees fit.  Just as I have used steps #1 to #9 by way of giving priority to the sexual satisfaction of my Beloved, it seems fitting to allow my Beloved to take charge of when and how she wishes to make love to me.  This is the magic step that none of the sex manuals promote.  I, on the other hand, would not want to imagine myself as doing anything but this.  I want to be conquered by my tiger!]

[Once your Beloved trusts you completely.  Once she knows that her pleasure comes first.  Then she will step out of the shadows from time to time and become the fierce tiger that takes over and gives direction to your sex life.  Look out!  This is the moment that you have been waiting for.  No need for me to even try to describe it, because every tiger has her own time and her own magic powers.  Get ready to be overwhelmed!  But don’t ever make the mistake of asking about this.  Let it come when she’s ready to make it come.]

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Go for it, Brother!  Let her become your Tiger!  Get ready to celebrate an infinity of Love together.  Surprise her and surprise yourself.

Aaron

Short history of Baptism

by Emma Martin  (Source)

 

Sacred Scripture indicates that Jesus and his disciples performed Baptisms (John 3: 22), yet in saying that Baptizing did not play a major part in Jesus’ own earthly ministry. Significance lies in the fact that there is biblical evidence that Baptism quickly became a central ritual of the Christian community almost immediately following Jesus’ death. In fact, the two key historical events that were most formative in the church’s understanding of Christian initiation were Jesus’ death and resurrection and the coming of the Holy Spirit.

The earliest rites of initiation, water baptism by submersion and the laying of hands, together sacramentalised these two historical events in one act of Baptism.

The public’s assent of faith marked the entrance into the Paschal Mystery (one of the central concepts of Christian faith relating to the history of salvation (7)) and experience of the Spirit. In the sacrament of Baptism this action is what was celebrated by the convert and community, as it was believed that meaningful faith could not be private, it was public and it was communal (7). Baptism celebrated this reality.

It is important that we are able to see this early development of Baptism in it’s proper context. It clearly was an expression of the life of the Church (6). It was a sacrament of initiation. As the church grew and developed in its first few centuries, the process of initiation also expanded to include what we now refer to as the Catechumenate, a faith journey undertaken by both candidate (catechumen) and community (5). This journey often spanning years clearly demonstrated that initiation was a process. Early in Church practice the Baptism of a convert (by this time a rich rite including the imposition of hands and an anointing) was immediately followed by the celebration of the Eucharist, the principle worship of the Church (5). Since Baptism was obviously associated with conversion, it was therefore administered primarily to adults for the first two or three centuries. When whole households were converted, and received into the Church, children were included in this rite (5).

Encouraging the delay of Baptism in the early Church was the harsh penitential discipline. The Early Church believed at that time that one had only two opportunities to receive the sacramental sign of forgiveness: Baptism and the reception of Penance after Baptism (5). In the fourth and fifth centuries Baptism underwent some of the most dramatic changes, as a result of a blend of theological insight and historical circumstance. Before this time Baptism was understood as a sacrament of adult conversion, the convert celebrated reconciliation with God and liberation from sin (4). It was Saint Augustine who emphasized the notion of baptismal liberation from sin and took the understanding of the Sacrament in a new direction, Augustine emphasized the reality of original sin and the resulting necessity for the grace of baptismal cleansing. Prior to this, people had little reason to fear for the salvation of their unbaptized children (5).  With this new theology, and the high rate of infant mortality, parents began to appeal to their bishop for the immediate baptism of their children. By the fifth century infant baptism had become the common practice. It should also be remembered that by this time the empire had become predominantly Christian, adult conversion and baptism was de-emphasized because there were few unbaptized adults left (5).

While infant baptism is the most common practice in the Church today, the new Rite of Christian Initiation for Adults, restored at the Second Vatican Council, offers us a more ancient vision of the Sacrament. It reminds us of the biblical connection between personal conversion and communal initiation, and it restores the ancient unity of the three presently distinct Sacraments of Initiation- Baptism, Confirmation and Eucharist (5).

By maintaining the validity of infant baptism, while also pointing to the vision of the adult catechumenate, the Church powerfully communicates the degree to which initiation should be viewed as a lifelong process worthy of such diverse sacramental expression (4).

Whether the Baptism conferred with the formula «We baptize you. . . .» is valid?

RESPONSES TO QUESTIONS by the  Congregation for the Doctrine of the Faith on the validity of Baptism conferred with the formula
«We baptize you in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit»

QUESTIONS

First question: Whether the Baptism conferred with the formula «We baptize you in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit» is valid?

Second question: Whether those persons for whom baptism was celebrated with this formula must be baptized in forma absoluta?

RESPONSES

To the first question: Negative.

To the second question: Affirmative.

The Supreme Pontiff Francis, at the Audience granted to the undersigned Cardinal Prefect of the Congregation for the Doctrine of the Faith, On June 8, 2020, approved these Responses and ordered their publication.

Rome, from the Offices of the Congregation for the Doctrine of the Faith, June 24, 2020, on the Solemnity of the Nativity of Saint John the Baptist.

Luis F. Card. Ladaria, S.I.
Prefect

✠ Giacomo Morandi
Titular Archbishop of Cerveteri
Secretary

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DOCTRINAL NOTE
on the modification of the sacramental formula of Baptism

Recently there have been celebrations of the Sacrament of Baptism administered with the words: “In the name of the father and of the mother, of the godfather and of the godmother, of the grandparents, of the family members, of the friends, in the name of the community we baptize you in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit”. Apparently, the deliberate modification of the sacramental formula was introduced to emphasize the communitarian significance of Baptism, in order to express the participation of the family and of those present, and to avoid the idea of the concentration of a sacred power in the priest to the detriment of the parents and the community that the formula in the Rituale Romano might seem to imply[1]. With debatable pastoral motives[2], here resurfaces the ancient temptation to substitute for the formula handed down by Tradition other texts judged more suitable. In this regard, St. Thomas Aquinas had already asked himself the question “utrum plures possint simul baptizare unum et eundem” to which he had replied negatively, insofar as this practice is contrary to the nature of the minister[3].

The Second Vatican Council states that: “when a man baptizes it is really Christ Himself who baptizes”[4]. The affirmation of the Constitution on the Sacred Liturgy Sacrosanctum Concilium, inspired by a text of Saint Augustine[5], wants to return the sacramental celebration to the presence of Christ, not only in the sense that he infuses his virtus to give it efficacy, but above all to indicate that the Lord has the principal role in the event being celebrated.

When celebrating a Sacrament, the Church in fact functions as the Body that acts inseparably from its Head, since it is Christ the Head who acts in the ecclesial Body generated by him in the Paschal mystery[6]. The doctrine of the divine institution of the Sacraments, solemnly affirmed by the Council of Trent[7], thus sees its natural development and authentic interpretation in the above-mentioned affirmation of Sacrosanctum Concilium. The two Councils are therefore in harmony in declaring that they do not have the authority to subject the seven sacraments to the action of the Church. The Sacraments, in fact, inasmuch as they were instituted by Jesus Christ, are entrusted to the Church to be preserved by her. It is evident here that although the Church is constituted by the Holy Spirit, who is the interpreter of the Word of God, and can, to a certain extent, determine the rites which express the sacramental grace offered by Christ, does not establish the very foundations of her existence: the Word of God and the saving acts of Christ.

It is therefore understandable that in the course of the centuries the Church has safeguarded the form of the celebration of the Sacraments, above all in those elements to which Scripture attests and that make it possible to recognize with absolute clarity the gesture of Christ in the ritual action of the Church. The Second Vatican Council has likewise established that no one “even if he be a priest, may add, remove, or change anything in the liturgy on his own authority”[8]. Modifying on one’s own initiative the form of the celebration of a Sacrament does not constitute simply a liturgical abuse, like the transgression of a positive norm, but a vulnus inflicted upon the ecclesial communion and the identifiability of Christ’s action, and in the most grave cases rendering invalid the Sacrament itself, because the nature of the ministerial action requires the transmission with fidelity of that which has been received (cf. 1 Cor 15:3).

In the celebration of the Sacraments, in fact, the subject is the Church, the Body of Christ together with its Head, that manifests itself in the concrete gathered assembly[9]. Such an assembly therefore acts ministerially – not collegially – because no group can make itself Church, but becomes Church in virtue of a call that cannot arise from within the assembly itself. The minister is therefore the sign-presence of Him who gathers, and is at the same time the locus of the communion of every liturgical assembly with the whole Church. In other words the minister is the visible sign that the Sacrament is not subject to an arbitrary action of individuals or of the community, and that it pertains to the Universal Church.

In this light must be understood the tridentine injunction concerning the necessity of the minister to at least have the intention to do that which the Church does[10]. The intention therefore cannot remain only at the interior level, with the risk of subjective distractions, but must be expressed in the exterior action constituted by the use of the matter and form of the Sacrament. Such an action cannot but manifest the communion between that which the minister accomplishes in the celebration of each individual sacrament with that which the Church enacts in communion with the action of Christ himself: It is therefore fundamental that the sacramental action may not be achieved in its own name, but in the person of Christ who acts in his Church, and in the name of the Church.

Therefore, in the specific case of the Sacrament of Baptism, not only does the minister not have the authority to modify the sacramental formula to his own liking, for the reasons of a christological and ecclesiological nature already articulated, but neither can he even declare that he is acting on behalf of the parents, godparents, relatives or friends, nor in the name of the assembly gathered for the celebration, because he acts insofar as he is the sign-presence of the same Christ that is enacted in the ritual gesture of the Church. When the minister says “I baptize you…” he does not speak as a functionary who carries out a role entrusted to him, but he enacts ministerially the sign-presence of Christ, who acts in his Body to give his grace and to make the concrete liturgical assembly a manifestation of “the real nature of the true Church”[11], insofar as “liturgical services are not private functions, but are celebrations of the Church, which is the ‘sacrament of unity,’ namely the holy people united and ordered under their bishops”[12].

Moreover, to modify the sacramental formula implies a lack of an understanding of the very nature of the ecclesial ministry that is always at the service of God and his people and not the exercise of a power that goes so far as to manipulate what has been entrusted to the Church in an act that pertains to the Tradition. Therefore, in every minister of Baptism, there must not only be a deeply rooted knowledge of the obligation to act in ecclesial communion, but also the same conviction that Saint Augustine attributes to the Precursor, which “was to be a certain peculiarity in Christ, such that, although many ministers, be they righteous or unrighteous, should baptize, the virtue of Baptism would be attributed to Him alone on whom the dove descended, and of whom it was said: ‘It is he who baptizes with the Holy Spirit’ (Jn 1:33)”. Therefore, Augustine comments: “Peter may baptize, but this is He that baptizes; Paul may baptize, yet this is He that baptizes; Judas may baptize, still this is He that baptizes»[13].  [Source]

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[1] In reality, a careful analysis of the Rite of Baptism of Children shows that in the celebration the parents, godparents and the entire community are called to play an active role, a true liturgical office (cf. Rituale Romanum ex Decreto Sacrosancti Oecumenici Concilii Vaticani II instauratum auctoritate Pauli PP. VI promulgatum, Ordo Baptismi Parvulorum, Praenotanda, nn. 4-7), which according to the conciliar provisions, however, requires that “each person, minister or layman, who has an office to perform, should do all of, but only, those parts which pertain to his office by the nature of the rite and the principles of liturgy” (Second Vatican Ecumenical Council, Constitution on the Sacred Liturgy Sacrosanctum Concilium, 28).

[2] Often the recourse to pastoral motivation masks, even unconsciously, a subjective deviation and a manipulative will. Already in the last century Romano Guardini recalled that if in personal prayer the believer can follow the impulse of the heart, in liturgical action “he must open himself to a different kind of impulse which comes from a more powerful source: namely, the heart of the Church which beats through the ages. Here it does not matter what personal tastes are, what wants he may have, or what particular cares occupy his mind…” (R. Guardini, Vorschule des Betens, Einsiedeln/Zürich, 19482, p. 258; Eng. trans.: The Art of Praying, Manchester, NH, 1985, 176).

[3] Summa Theologiae, III, q. 67, a. 6 c.

[4] Second Vatican Ecumenical Council, Constitution Sacrosanctum Concilium, 7.

[5] S. Augustinus, In Evangelium Ioannis tractatus, VI, 7.

[6] Cf. Second Vatican Ecumenical Council, Constitution Sacrosanctum Concilium, 5.

[7] Cf. DH 1601.

[8] Second Vatican Ecumenical Council, Constitution Sacrosanctum Concilium, 22 § 3.

[9] Cf. Catechismus Catholicae Ecclesiae, n. 1140: “Tota communitas, corpus Christi suo Capiti unitum, celebrat” and 1141: “Celebrans congregatio communitas est baptizatorum”.

[10] Cf. DH 1611.

[11] Second Vatican Ecumenical Council, Constitution Sacrosanctum Concilium, 2.

[12] Ibid., 26.

[13] S. Augustinus, In Evangelium Ioannis tractatus, VI, 7.

[00923-EN.01] [Original text: Italian]

 

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grandparentsThe traditional marriage of my grandparents had little to do with “falling in love” or with vulnerability.  To begin with, there were distinct spheres of influence and division of labor.  My grandfather knew nothing about cooking, cleaning, or caring for children.  He left these things up to his wife just as his own father had left all these things to his mother.  My grandmother, meanwhile, knew nothing about Continue reading Blog: How my experience of marriage shapes me. . . .

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Get SEVEN ERRORS Kindle Now #1 For fifty years, the vast majority of Roman Catholic priests and theologians have been forced into a reluctant silence when it comes to birth control, celibacy of priests, indulgences, ordination of women, and homosexuality. I myself, while teaching in Roman Catholic seminaries for twenty-five years, was required to keep a guarded silence on all these issues. But this reluctant obedience has not served me nor has it served those whom I helped prepare for lay and ordained ministry. Pope Francis, for his part, has forthrightly warned our bishops against “the temptation to hostile inflexibility, that is, wanting to close oneself within the written word . . , within the law, within the certitude of what we know and not of what we still need to learn and to achieve” (source). When this happens, “the bread” that Jesus blesses and gives to his disciples is transformed “into a stone” that is either “cast against the sinners” or it is carried by them as an “unbearable burden” (Luke 11:46). By way of atoning for my years of silence, I have prepared this book in order to equip my former students and all those faithful Catholics who are interested in sorting out the wheat from the chaff within current Catholic teaching. What you discover herein will supply you with clear, strong, and compelling case studies that can be used to open up informed and reliable explorations on topics that have largely been obscured by authoritative pronouncements, by shoddy biblical scholarship, and by ignorance of Catholic history. Whether you want to speak to your teenage daughter or to your bishop, these case studies offer talking points that will enable you to make sense out of the faith that is intended to nourish us, to make us free, and to draw us into harmony with the Spirit of Christ.

 

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Get EVE Kindle Now #2 In the traditional teaching of the churches, Eve gets named as the companion of Adam who coaxes him to sin against God. This fall from grace afflicts the human race until the end of time. Eve is the “tool of the devil” that betrays her husband. The purpose of this book is to enable you to read the hidden clues in the text of Gen 1-3 in order to discover the “original meaning” of the text . In so doing, you will be surprised to discover that the “original meaning” differs strongly from what the churches have been teaching. Examples:

  1. When the text of Gen 2-3 is examined, Eve’s “fall from grace” is never mentioned. On the contrary, the eating of the fruit of “the tree of the knowledge of good and evil” is associated with wondrous super powers: “their eyes were opened” (Gen 3:5, 7). This is all the more wondrous in so far as these transformations enable Eve and Adam to see things clearly as God sees them. Far from being a “fall,” therefore, Eve’s eating enables her to become “like God” (Gen 3:6, 22).
  2. Classical theology speaks of Eve as being deceived by the devil who was bent upon the destruction of Adam. The “serpent” described in the text is never associated with the “devil” at any point. Rather, you will discover that the “serpent” functions as a spirit-guide within ancient Middle Eastern culture. Far from deceiving Eve, this “serpent” is assuredly a truth-teller: “You will not die [when you eat this fruit]; for God knows that when you eat of it your eyes will be opened, and you will be like God, knowing good and evil” (Gen 3:5-6). And, according to the story of Genesis, this is exactly what happens.
  3. Adam, meanwhile, has been telling Eve that God said, “You shall not eat of the fruit of the tree that is in the middle of the garden, nor shall you touch it, or you shall die” (Gen 3:3). When Eve touches the fruit, however, nothing happens. Adam clearly is mistaken. So, she eats it. And the eating has wondrous effects. Thus, Eve exposes the errors of Adam on both counts. We can even surmise that Eve trusted God to be a gentle and wise parent who would never cultivate a poisonous fruit tree in his garden if he knew that he was endangering the life of his children. Adam, strange to say, never took the time to explore the deep contradictions between what God told him [“you will die”] and what the serpent told Eve [“you will be like God”].
  4. According to the Genesis account, Eve and Adam are expelled from the Garden. According to the prevailing theology of the churches, this expulsion takes place due to God abhorrence of their grave sin [the “original sin”] that God was seemingly unable or unwilling to forgive. The text itself provides quite another explanation: “The LORD God said, ‘See, the man has become like one of us, knowing good and evil; and now, he might reach out his hand and take also from the tree of life, and eat, and live forever,’ therefore the LORD God sent him forth from the garden of Eden” (Gen 3:22-23). In effect, therefore, God has planted not one but two empowering trees: “the tree of the knowledge of good and evil” and “the tree of eternal life.” Having been empowered by eating of the former tree, God figures that it would just be a matter of time before his children ate of the latter tree that would seemingly make them “live forever” just as God does.
  5. God intended his children to be mortal. The text specifies this intention clearly, “You are [made out of] dust, and to dust you shall return” (Gen 3:19). Hence, contrary to traditional theology, Adam and Eve were never designed for immortality, but their sin caused God to change his mind. The text says that God assigns the immortal “cherubim” the task of “guard[ing] the way to the tree of life” (Gen 3:24). Here again the text indicates clearly that “sin” was not an issue here; rather, protection of the “tree of life” was God’s primary concern.
  6. It is instructive that Eve and Adam and all their children lived nearly a thousand years. If we trust the bible when it teaches us that a long life is a sign of God’s blessing, then we have to conclude that Eve and Adam were wondrously blessed with long lives. God had no cause to curse them, and he was surely not unable or unwilling to forgive his children for some imagined “grave sin.” The pangs of childbearing are cursed and the sweat from tilling the soil is cursed—but God never once curses his children. In fact, just before leaving Eden, God gave both his children a very necessary gift. Maybe you know what that gift might be.
  7. Why do Adam and Eve suddenly become aware that they are naked after eating the prescious fruit of the first tree? Why do they hide from each other and hide from God? The answer to this key question will amaze you. Do you already have a hunch?

My book is an easy read. It demontrates step-by-step how a research theologian like myself works to uncover the “original meaning” of the text of Genesis. Then, as an extra treat, my book goes on to show why and how church teachers of the 2nd century deliberately covered over the image of Eve as the “pioneer of Adam’s salvation” in favor of presenting Eve as the “gateway of the devil bent on corrupting Adam and all his children.”

 

Get KKK Kindle Now #3 Like Kevin Kukla, I am a cradle-Catholic. I grew up in Euclid, Ohio, and my parents made certain that I attended a Catholic grade school and Catholic high school. Then I myself chose to attend a Catholic university and two Catholic graduate schools in theology. I was an altar server for fifty years and gained a robust gratitude for the power of Holy Orders and for the sacramental presence of Christ in the Eucharist. I mastered Theistic theology and then went on to master Neothomism and revisionist theologies that erupted following Vatican II. I trained future Catholic priests and lay ministers in three different seminaries for twenty-five years. I know and I love the Church, warts and all. However, I also learned that our Holy Mother the Church can be calloused and mean-spirited when it came time to consider issues of sexual conduct. Contrary to the orientation of Kevin Kukla, I am persuaded that the Catholic hierarchy has “almost never gotten it right on issues of sexual ethics.” For me “to serve the Lord,” therefore, I need to expose and challenge Kevin’s historical ignorance, his defective biblical interpretations, and his philosophical errors. This challenge is not so much for Kevin’s sake but for the sake of honest Catholics everywhere who have needlessly suffered due to the cruel and misguided “pastoral guidance” of “super Catholics” like Kevin Kukla. This book is not just an academic debate. Rather it represents the opportunity to listen to two committed Catholics passionate about living and improving the sexual guidance given by our Holy Mother, the Church.

 

Get TRUE DETECTIVE Kindle Now #4 Meeting real women in your own hometown is haphazard at best. It is also massively time-consuming. Online, women reach out to you every time you open your mailbox. These women can communicate with candor and directness that is nearly impossible in real life situations. But the dark side is also there. Someone can use fake pictures and borrow words of love stolen from others online. One can even receive “faked” Red Cross identity papers and “faked” passports confirming the identity of the sender. So what is one to do? If you don’t play with this fire, you will never get burnt. Nor will you ever enjoy engaging conversations with woman who you’d never meet in your limited social circles. Millions of men and women are linking up every day using the internet. Success stories abound. In a study of marriages celebrated 2005-2012, researchers discovered that a whopping 35% of Americans initially met their love-match online. So what does one do? I advise you: “Go for it! But walk softly and carry this book so that you will spot the frauds and avoid the scams.” With my help, you will not foolishly lose your money and you will not needlessly break your heart. Moreover, you will have the satisfaction of progressively mastering basic skills for uncovering the “truth” and for bringing local law enforcers and the FBI to take action on your behalf (should you need them). Excerpt from Case One: Nurse Juliet Begs to Visit

I felt some bitterness for a few days. I had been “a love-sick dude” who lost his good judgment because of the attractive words in an email. Had I learned a lesson? Yes and no. This was only my first encounter with fraud. I didn’t yet have any way of knowing to what degree dating sites were plagued by deeply entrenched and cleverly disguised systemic fraud. But I was a detective, and I knew “what evil lurks in the hearts of men.”[i] So fasten your seat belts, my dear reader, and get ready for the ride of your life. . . . [i] https://en.wikiquote.org/wiki/The_Shadow

PS: I thank Aaron Milavec for allowing me to post my book on his site. ~~Adam Rose

 

Get CHRONICLES PDF Now #5 Finding True Love Online is no easy road to travel.      

I was where you are . . . facing my favorite holiday “alone” for yet another year. In October, I tried a new dating site, MeetMindful.com, and only 3 out of 50 women responded to my welcoming messages. Discouragement set in. But here is the good news: I was to discover that three is all that was needed. The quality of candidates here is outstanding. And my discovery of my beloved Elena (an Italian living in China) as one of these three was so spectacular that I just spent $1207 for a round trip flight ticket, Cincinnati to Shanghai, arriving on 31 Jan 2017. So, for those who are still looking and for those who stopped looking, I’d like to send you a red string wrapped around the eBook that tells about our mutual story on this dating site beginning 01 Nov 2016. It’s a very personal story for both of us. It’s filled with laughter and tears, with awesome pitfalls and moments of unexpected grace. Most of all, it’s the story of hope and of love that you might benefit from at this time of the year. So, for those who are still looking and for those who stopped looking, I’d like to send you a red string wrapped around our true life story. It’s filled with laughter and tears, with awesome pitfalls and moments of unexpected grace. Most of all, it’s the story of hope and of love that you might benefit from at this time of the year.

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Aaron in 2020 Meet the Author

Aaron Milavec began his career as an innovative teacher and software developer. After devoting twenty-five years to the training of future priests and lay ministers, Milavec turned his attention to gender studies and the empowerment of women. For seven years (2007-2014) he collaborated with others in designing and operating Catherine of Siena Virtual College—an international, interactive center for the empowerment of women and men through online learning circles. In his free time, he gravitated towards primitive camping and hiking in the woods. He set up an art studio in his garage and won awards for his ceramic pottery in the Maya tradition. He became an avid participant in the Mankind Project. In his youth, Milavec was fascinated with science. After beginning graduate studies in physics, however, Milavec suffered an unexpected loss of faith in science. At that point, he gravitated toward the philosophy of science and ended up with an abiding passion for religious inquiry and spiritual development. While a Research Fellow at the University of Victoria, he completed an essay, “How Acts of Discovery Transform our Tacit Knowing Powers in both Scientific and Religious Inquiry,” Zygon 42/2 (2006) 465-486. Milavec earned his B.S. in physics from the University of Dayton, his S.T.B. from the University of Fribourg (Switzerland) in 1968 and his Th.D. from the Graduate Theological Union (Berkeley) in 1973. Milavec has published eighteen books, eight chapters in collected works, and sixty journal articles. His most recent book, What Jesus Would Say to Same-Sex Couples (2019) exposes the biblical and theological errors of the anti-gay Gospel found in Roman Catholicism and Evangelical Protestantism. For open discussion on this book, go to http://Jesus4Lesbians.com For additional eBooks, go to https://payhip.com/milavec For support of Pope Francis, go to http://SupportPopeFrancis.com

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Choose one to four eBooks.  Decide who you want to be your “reading partner.”  Decide which books you want to share with others who are on your “Christmas list.” 

Read to enjoy!  Read to learn.  Read to free yourself from some of the religious quirks that have taken root in your life and caused you unnecessary suffering.

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#1 Finding True Love Online is no easy road to travel.

 

 

 

I was where you are . . . facing my favorite holiday “alone” for yet another year.  In October, I tried a new dating site, MeetMindful.com, and only 3 out of 50 women responded to my welcoming messages.  Discouragement set in.

But here is the good news: I was to discover that three is all that was needed.  The quality of candidates here is outstanding.  And my discovery of my beloved Elena (an Italian living in China) as one of these three was so spectacular that I just spent $1207 for a round trip flight ticket, Cincinnati to Shanghai, arriving on 31 Jan 2017.

So, for those who are still looking and for those who stopped looking, I’d like to send you a red string wrapped around the eBook that tells about our mutual story on this dating site beginning 01 Nov 2016.  It’s a very personal story for both of us.  It’s filled with laughter and tears, with awesome pitfalls and moments of unexpected grace.  Most of all, it’s the story of hope and of love that you might benefit from at this time of the year.

So, for those who are still looking and for those who stopped looking, I’d like to send you a red string wrapped around our true life story.  It’s filled with laughter and tears, with awesome pitfalls and moments of unexpected grace.  Most of all, it’s the story of hope and of love that you might benefit from at this time of the year.

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#2 For fifty years, the vast majority of Roman Catholic priests and theologians have been forced into a reluctant silence when it comes to birth control, celibacy of priests, indulgences, ordination of women, and homosexuality. I myself, while teaching in Roman Catholic seminaries for twenty-five years, was required to keep a guarded silence on all these issues. But this reluctant obedience has not served me nor has it served those whom I helped prepare for lay and ordained ministry.

Pope Francis, for his part, has forthrightly warned our bishops against “the temptation to hostile inflexibility, that is, wanting to close oneself within the written word . . , within the law, within the certitude of what we know and not of what we still need to learn and to achieve” (source).   When this happens, “the bread” that Jesus blesses and gives to his disciples is transformed “into a stone” that is either “cast against the sinners” or it is carried by them as an “unbearable burden” (Luke 11:46).

By way of atoning for my years of silence, I have prepared this book in order to equip my former students and all those faithful Catholics who are interested in sorting out the wheat from the chaff within current Catholic teaching. What you discover herein will supply you with clear, strong, and compelling case studies that can be used to open up informed and reliable explorations on topics that have largely been obscured by authoritative pronouncements, by shoddy biblical scholarship, and by ignorance of Catholic history.

Whether you want to speak to your teenage daughter or to your bishop, these case studies offer talking points that will enable you to make sense out of the faith that is intended to nourish us, to make us free, and to draw us into harmony with the Spirit of Christ.

 

Get Free Kindle Reader = http://www.effortlesscommunication.com/reader.htm

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#3 In the traditional teaching of the churches, Eve gets named as the companion of Adam who coaxes him to sin against God.  This fall from grace afflicts the human race until the end of time.   Eve is the “tool of the devil” that betrays her husband.

The purpose of this book is to enable you to read the hidden clues in the text of Gen 1-3 in order to discover the “original meaning” of the text .  In so doing, you will be surprised to discover that the “original meaning” differs strongly from what the churches have been teaching.    Examples:

  1. When the text of Gen 2-3 is examined, Eve’s “fall from grace” is never mentioned.  On the contrary, the eating of the fruit of “the tree of the knowledge of good and evil” is associated with wondrous super powers: “their eyes were opened” (Gen 3:5, 7).  This is all the more wondrous in so far as these transformations enable Eve and Adam to see things clearly as God sees them.  Far from being a “fall,” therefore, Eve’s eating enables her to become “like God” (Gen 3:6, 22).
  2.  Classical theology speaks of Eve as being deceived by the devil who was bent upon the destruction of Adam.  The “serpent” described in the text is never associated with the “devil” at any point.  Rather, you will discover that the “serpent” functions as a spirit-guide within ancient Middle Eastern culture.  Far from deceiving Eve, this “serpent” is assuredly a truth-teller: “You will not die [when you eat this fruit]; for God knows that when you eat of it your eyes will be opened, and you will be like God, knowing good and evil” (Gen 3:5-6).  And, according to the story of Genesis, this is exactly what happens.
  3. Adam, meanwhile, has been telling Eve that God said, “You shall not eat of the fruit of the tree that is in the middle of the garden, nor shall you touch it, or you shall die” (Gen 3:3).  When Eve touches the fruit, however, nothing happens.  Adam clearly is mistaken.  So, she eats it.  And the eating has wondrous effects.  Thus, Eve exposes the errors of Adam on both counts.  We can even surmise that Eve trusted God to be a gentle and wise parent who would never cultivate a poisonous fruit tree in his garden if he knew that he was endangering the life of his children.  Adam, strange to say, never took the time to explore the deep contradictions between what God told him [“you will die”] and what the serpent told Eve [“you will be like God”].
  4.  According to the Genesis account, Eve and Adam are expelled from the Garden.  According to the prevailing theology of the churches, this expulsion takes place due to God abhorrence of their grave sin [the “original sin”] that God was seemingly unable or unwilling to forgive.  The text itself provides quite another explanation: “The LORD God said, ‘See, the man has become like one of us, knowing good and evil; and now, he might reach out his hand and take also from the tree of life, and eat, and live forever,’ therefore the LORD God sent him forth from the garden of Eden” (Gen 3:22-23).  In effect, therefore, God has planted not one but two empowering trees: “the tree of the knowledge of good and evil” and “the tree of eternal life.”  Having been empowered by eating of the former tree, God figures that it would just be a matter of time before his children ate of the latter tree that would seemingly make them “live forever” just as God does.
  5. God intended his children to be mortal.  The text specifies this intention clearly, “You are [made out of] dust, and to dust you shall return” (Gen 3:19).  Hence, contrary to traditional theology, Adam and Eve were never designed for immortality, but their sin caused God to change his mind.  The text says that God assigns the immortal “cherubim” the task of “guard[ing] the way to the tree of life” (Gen 3:24).  Here again the text indicates clearly that “sin” was not an issue here; rather, protection of the “tree of life” was God’s primary concern. 
  6. It is instructive that Eve and Adam and all their children lived nearly a thousand years.  If we trust the bible when it teaches us that a long life is a sign of God’s blessing, then we have to conclude that Eve and Adam were wondrously blessed with long lives.  God had no cause to curse them, and he was surely not unable or unwilling to forgive his children for some imagined “grave sin.”  The pangs of childbearing are cursed and the sweat from tilling the soil is cursed—but God never once curses his children.  In fact,  just before leaving Eden, God gave both his children a very necessary gift.  Maybe you know what that gift might be.
  7. Why do Adam and Eve suddenly become aware that they are naked after eating the prescious fruit of the first tree?  Why do they hide from each other and hide from God?  The answer to this key question will amaze you.  Do you already have a hunch?

My book is an easy read.  It demontrates step-by-step how a research theologian like myself works to uncover the “original meaning” of the text of Genesis.  Then, as an extra treat, my book goes on to show why and how church teachers of the 2nd century deliberately covered over the image of Eve as the “pioneer of Adam’s salvation” in favor of presenting Eve as the “gateway of the devil bent on corrupting Adam and all his children.” 

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#4 Like Kevin Kukla, I am a cradle-Catholic.  I grew up in Euclid, Ohio, and my parents made certain that I attended a Catholic grade school and Catholic high school.  Then I myself chose to attend a Catholic university and two Catholic graduate schools in theology.  I was an altar server for fifty years and gained a robust gratitude for the power of Holy Orders and for the sacramental presence of Christ in the Eucharist.  I mastered Theistic theology and then went on to master Neothomism and revisionist theologies that erupted following Vatican II.  I trained future Catholic priests and lay ministers in three different seminaries for twenty-five years. 

I know and I love the Church, warts and all.  However, I also learned that our Holy Mother the Church can be calloused and mean-spirited when it came time to consider issues of sexual conduct.  Contrary to the orientation of Kevin Kukla, I am persuaded that the Catholic hierarchy has “almost never gotten it right on issues of sexual ethics.”  For me “to serve the Lord,” therefore, I need to expose and challenge Kevin’s historical ignorance, his defective biblical interpretations, and his philosophical errors.  This challenge is not so much for Kevin’s sake but for the sake of honest Catholics everywhere who have needlessly suffered due to the cruel and misguided “pastoral guidance” of “super Catholics” like Kevin Kukla.

This book is not just an academic debate.  Rather it represents the opportunity to listen to two committed Catholics passionate about living and improving the sexual guidance given by our Holy Mother, the Church.

 

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#5 Meeting real women in your own hometown is haphazard at best. It is also massively time-consuming. Online, women reach out to you every time you open your mailbox. These women can communicate with candor and directness that is nearly impossible in real life situations. But the dark side is also there. Someone can use fake pictures and borrow words of love stolen from others online. One can even receive “faked” Red Cross identity papers and “faked” passports confirming the identity of the sender. So what is one to do?

If you don’t play with this fire, you will never get burnt. Nor will you ever enjoy engaging conversations with woman who you’d never meet in your limited social circles.  Millions of men and women are linking up every day using the internet. Success stories abound. In a study of marriages celebrated 2005-2012, researchers discovered that a whopping 35% of Americans initially met their love-match online. So what does one do?

I advise you: “Go for it! But walk softly and carry this book so that  you will spot the frauds and avoid the scams.”  With my help, you will not foolishly lose your money and you will not needlessly break your heart.  Moreover, you will have the satisfaction of progressively mastering basic skills for uncovering the “truth” and for bringing local law enforcers and the FBI to take action on your behalf (should you need them).

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I felt some bitterness for a few days. I had been “a love-sick dude” who lost his good judgment because of the attractive words in an email. Had I learned a lesson? Yes and no.   This was only my first encounter with fraud. I didn’t yet have any way of knowing to what degree dating sites were plagued by deeply entrenched and cleverly disguised systemic fraud. But I was a detective, and I knew “what evil lurks in the hearts of men.”[i]  So fasten your seat belts, my dear reader, and get ready for the ride of your life. . . .

[i] https://en.wikiquote.org/wiki/The_Shadow

PS: I thank Aaron Milavec for allowing me to post my book on his site.   ~~Adam Rose

 

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#6 Rosie says:

When it came time to planning how to lose my virginity, I was keen to have the best guidance possible. Hands down, Beth F. is sharp as a tack when it comes to inter-personal issues. Beth also happens to be my best friend, so I have no hesitation to speak openly with her because she will never needlessly shame me or silence me. We roomed together three years in college. We rejoiced together and cried together during these years. Between us, there were no secrets.

Here is the plan we hatched together. I was going to use an internet dating site and to find someone special who was willing not only to pop my cherry but to be emotionally and physically intimate with me for a period of a few months. In brief, it made no sense to just have sex once or twice with a good man. It had to be GREAT SEX, and great sex, so I thought, cannot take place unless there is emotional, spiritual, and physical intimacy.

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Aaron Milavec began his career as an innovative teacher and software developer.  After devoting twenty-five years to the training of future priests and lay ministers, Milavec turned his attention to gender studies and the empowerment of women.  For seven years (2007-2014) he collaborated with others in designing and operating Catherine of Siena Virtual College—an international, interactive center for the empowerment of women and men through online learning circles.  In his free time, he gravitated towards primitive camping and hiking in the woods.  He set up an art studio in his garage and won awards for his ceramic pottery in the Maya tradition.  He became an avid participant in the Mankind Project.

In his youth, Milavec was fascinated with science.  After beginning graduate studies in physics, however, Milavec suffered an unexpected loss of faith in science.  At that point, he gravitated toward the philosophy of science and ended up with an abiding passion for religious inquiry and spiritual development.  While a Research Fellow at the University of Victoria, he completed an essay, “How Acts of Discovery Transform our Tacit Knowing Powers in both Scientific and Religious Inquiry,” Zygon 42/2 (2006) 465-486.

Milavec earned his B.S. in physics from the University of Dayton, his S.T.B. from the University of Fribourg (Switzerland) in 1968 and his Th.D. from the Graduate Theological Union (Berkeley) in 1973.

Milavec has published eighteen books, eight chapters in collected works, and sixty journal articles.  His most recent book, What Jesus Would Say to Same-Sex Couples (2019) exposes the biblical and theological errors of the anti-gay Gospel found in Roman Catholicism and Evangelical Protestantism.

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