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Aaron Milavec, Professor Emeritus, has served as a seminary and university professor for over twenty-five years. He brought his fresh approach to the Didache to the attention of biblical scholars by originating a new program unit of the national Society of Biblical Literature, "The Didache in Context," which he chaired 2002-2005. Meanwhile, his website, www.Didache.info, promotes pioneering research and scholarly exchange on issues of the early church. His thousand-page commentary, The Didache: Faith, Hope, and Life of the Earliest Christian Communities, 50-70 C.E., received a 2004 Catholic Press Club award recognizing the best books in theology. To date, Aaron has published fifteen books in theology and ministry. brief bio = http://didache.info/AaAuthor.htm CV = http://didache.info/CV.htm research = https://catherinecollege.academia.edu/AaronRoseMilavec support = http://www.supportpopefrancis.com/ renewal = http://churchonfire.net/ GLBTQI = http://jesus4lesbians.com/

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Blog: How my experience of marriage shapes me. . . .

The Changing Experience of Marriage

grandparentsThe traditional marriage of my grandparents had little to do with “falling in love” or with vulnerability.  To begin with, there were distinct spheres of influence and division of labor.  My grandfather knew nothing about cooking, cleaning, or caring for children.  He left these things up to his wife just as his own father had left all these things to his mother.  My grandmother, meanwhile, knew nothing about running a business, making a living, fixing things (plumbing, electricity, automechanics)–she left all these things in the hands of her husband who acted much like his own father before him.  Both of my grandparents came from the same social class (middle-class), the same culture (Slovenian), the same religion (Catholic); hence, when entering into marriage, there were very insignificant disruptions from the habits of thought and practices which both had been used to in their respective homes.

Where there was disruption, the tacit surmise was that the role of the wife was to accommodate to the wishes of her husband.  Thus, when my grandfather (who took pride in making his own wine) insisted that he always serve wine to guests and, when there were no guests, that his wife serve him his wine, my grandmother accommodated.  So, too, when my grandfather made it known that he preferred this perfume, this dress, my grandmother gracefully accommodated just as she had seen her mother do.  In some things, however, my grandmother refused to accommodate.  For example, she always fed her children first (from infancy onward) even if it meant that her husband had to wait for his supper.  At first, there were angry outbursts.  And later my grandfather fumed about this; yet, in the face of his wife’s stubborn insistence that “the children come first,” she finally won the day and got her husband to tolerate her “deviance” from what had been the practice during his own upbringing.

womanwishingwellDivision of labor and mutual need provided much of the bonding within traditional marriages.  My grandfather, for instance, needed to eat.  Since he regarded cooking as a “women’s work” and never took the least interest in watching, much less learning, the rudiments of the art, he was always dependent upon a woman.  First, it was his mother.  Then, it was his wife.  As was the tradition, they postponed their marriage until he could afford to buy a house.  Thus, marriage marked the transition from his mother cooking, cleaning, ironing for him and his wife doing all these very same things.  The same thing could be said for my grandmother.  She regarded learning a trade and making a living as a “man’s work.”  Thus, with her marriage, she moved from being dependent upon the income of her father to becoming dependent upon the income of her husband.

At one point, my grandmother, who was superb at crocheting, was lured into selling some of her doilies to her friends.  My grandfather was furious.  He insisted that she give the money back.  He felt ashamed that his wife was earning income as if to imply that he was not providing for her sufficiently.  My grandmother, who didn’t want to resort to giving her work away, developed the strategy of trading jams and other preserves.  Later, she returned to the practice of accepting money and insisted that her buyers must not breathe a word of it to anybody.  Thus, in a world wherein “the man was king of his castle,” my grandmother had to make do, by giving in on insignificant issues, by mulishly holding her ground on important ones, and by surreptitiously avoiding my grandfather’s supervision in things where he ought not to have been meddling.

My own experience of marriage

How different this was from my own marriage.  From the very beginning, it was clear that I could cook, clean, and iron with pride and proficiency, as well as carry on my professional career.  My wife would work professionally outside our home as well as in our home and she would not be forever dependent upon a weekly allowance that I would give to her out of my paycheck.  Yet, it was evident that we had great need to influence each other, to decide things together, to work cooperatively. Moreover, I was intent upon being in on all the delights and headaches of raising children. I learned from my wife who was extraordinarily adept at relating to our children and I also had ideas and experiences of my own which entered into our long discussions about how to raise our children.

Under my grandparents system, mutual need and spheres of influence provided the effective glue for marriage. For my wife and I, we entered into marriage when we had discovered we were soul-mates.  Sympathetic listening with the intent of entering into each other’s heart and soul was the primary model for marriage.  It is for this reason that the mutual surrender, the falling in love, the mutual influencing is the sine qua none for entering into such a marriage. Hence, romantic attraction ushering into mutual surrender fashioned the glue of our union.  In this, settled instincts were being transformed quietly and quickly under the guise of the mutual love which was binding us. I wanted to see the world through her eyes, to taste it as she tasted it, to touch it as she was touching it. For her it was the same. Once the period of romantic surrender wore off, both of us had arrived at a blending of our souls, our loves, our hates, our instincts, our habits for engaging in the world.

Even a pope is limited by his own experiences

The trouble that I have with Mulieris Dignitatem is that I never catch any real glimpse of how marriages have changed within the short span of three generations.  More often than not, I have had the feeling that John Paul II either had not noticed these changes or, having noticed them, had not considered them worth mentioning.  If this is the case, however, I doubt whether he had understood or taken into account the stuff of my marriage.  For all I know, he may well have been thinking of marriage as he knew it in his formative years in Kraków–a marriage very much like that of my grandparents.  The fact that he assigned the role and vocation of woman as directed towards the “gift of self” and towards motherhood gives the feeling that he was talking about my grandparents generation.  This wisdom would have admirable fit them.

Today, however, I presume that my wife has a calling and a vocation within the public sphere which stands alongside her being wife and mother.  Might this not have a significant bearing upon how John Paul II envisions women’s role relative to the church.  Like in the case of my own father, he might, under restricted circumstances, allow my wife to continue to work outside the home until the birth of her first child.  But this “work” was not a true vocation; “motherhood” was and will always remain her true vocation.  There is little chance, therefore, that someone fashioned within this era would be receptive to women as ordained ministers or high level leaders within the Catholic Church.  The struggle for women in the Church, accordingly, may indeed be much more a question of enculturation rather than an issue of theology.

Conclusions

#1 Our experience of marriage shapes our stubborn habits as to how we think and feel about all aspects of marriage.

#2 As the experience of marriage has changed so too has the expectation that women could be mothers and, at the same time, have careers that enable them to shape society and commerce.

#3  Because the experience of marriage has changed, most men that I taught in my seminary teaching experience thought that sexual intimacy in marriage would not be in any way incompatible with ordained ministry.  Going further, some even thought that sexual intimacy could provide an important spiritual and psychological asset for any man called to the ordained ministry.

#4 What is good for the gander is good for the goose.  Sexual intimacy and motherhood might be entirely compatible with women’s ordination.  Any society which reserves decision making and ordination to just one sex cannot flourish.  The Holy Spirit cannot fly with just one wing.  God is male and female whether we like it or not.

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  1. When the text of Gen 2-3 is examined, Eve’s “fall from grace” is never mentioned. On the contrary, the eating of the fruit of “the tree of the knowledge of good and evil” is associated with wondrous super powers: “their eyes were opened” (Gen 3:5, 7). This is all the more wondrous in so far as these transformations enable Eve and Adam to see things clearly as God sees them. Far from being a “fall,” therefore, Eve’s eating enables her to become “like God” (Gen 3:6, 22).
  2. Classical theology speaks of Eve as being deceived by the devil who was bent upon the destruction of Adam. The “serpent” described in the text is never associated with the “devil” at any point. Rather, you will discover that the “serpent” functions as a spirit-guide within ancient Middle Eastern culture. Far from deceiving Eve, this “serpent” is assuredly a truth-teller: “You will not die [when you eat this fruit]; for God knows that when you eat of it your eyes will be opened, and you will be like God, knowing good and evil” (Gen 3:5-6). And, according to the story of Genesis, this is exactly what happens.
  3. Adam, meanwhile, has been telling Eve that God said, “You shall not eat of the fruit of the tree that is in the middle of the garden, nor shall you touch it, or you shall die” (Gen 3:3). When Eve touches the fruit, however, nothing happens. Adam clearly is mistaken. So, she eats it. And the eating has wondrous effects. Thus, Eve exposes the errors of Adam on both counts. We can even surmise that Eve trusted God to be a gentle and wise parent who would never cultivate a poisonous fruit tree in his garden if he knew that he was endangering the life of his children. Adam, strange to say, never took the time to explore the deep contradictions between what God told him [“you will die”] and what the serpent told Eve [“you will be like God”].
  4. According to the Genesis account, Eve and Adam are expelled from the Garden. According to the prevailing theology of the churches, this expulsion takes place due to God abhorrence of their grave sin [the “original sin”] that God was seemingly unable or unwilling to forgive. The text itself provides quite another explanation: “The LORD God said, ‘See, the man has become like one of us, knowing good and evil; and now, he might reach out his hand and take also from the tree of life, and eat, and live forever,’ therefore the LORD God sent him forth from the garden of Eden” (Gen 3:22-23). In effect, therefore, God has planted not one but two empowering trees: “the tree of the knowledge of good and evil” and “the tree of eternal life.” Having been empowered by eating of the former tree, God figures that it would just be a matter of time before his children ate of the latter tree that would seemingly make them “live forever” just as God does.
  5. God intended his children to be mortal. The text specifies this intention clearly, “You are [made out of] dust, and to dust you shall return” (Gen 3:19). Hence, contrary to traditional theology, Adam and Eve were never designed for immortality, but their sin caused God to change his mind. The text says that God assigns the immortal “cherubim” the task of “guard[ing] the way to the tree of life” (Gen 3:24). Here again the text indicates clearly that “sin” was not an issue here; rather, protection of the “tree of life” was God’s primary concern.
  6. It is instructive that Eve and Adam and all their children lived nearly a thousand years. If we trust the bible when it teaches us that a long life is a sign of God’s blessing, then we have to conclude that Eve and Adam were wondrously blessed with long lives. God had no cause to curse them, and he was surely not unable or unwilling to forgive his children for some imagined “grave sin.” The pangs of childbearing are cursed and the sweat from tilling the soil is cursed—but God never once curses his children. In fact, just before leaving Eden, God gave both his children a very necessary gift. Maybe you know what that gift might be.
  7. Why do Adam and Eve suddenly become aware that they are naked after eating the prescious fruit of the first tree? Why do they hide from each other and hide from God? The answer to this key question will amaze you. Do you already have a hunch?

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I was where you are . . . facing my favorite holiday “alone” for yet another year. In October, I tried a new dating site, MeetMindful.com, and only 3 out of 50 women responded to my welcoming messages. Discouragement set in. But here is the good news: I was to discover that three is all that was needed. The quality of candidates here is outstanding. And my discovery of my beloved Elena (an Italian living in China) as one of these three was so spectacular that I just spent $1207 for a round trip flight ticket, Cincinnati to Shanghai, arriving on 31 Jan 2017. So, for those who are still looking and for those who stopped looking, I’d like to send you a red string wrapped around the eBook that tells about our mutual story on this dating site beginning 01 Nov 2016. It’s a very personal story for both of us. It’s filled with laughter and tears, with awesome pitfalls and moments of unexpected grace. Most of all, it’s the story of hope and of love that you might benefit from at this time of the year. So, for those who are still looking and for those who stopped looking, I’d like to send you a red string wrapped around our true life story. It’s filled with laughter and tears, with awesome pitfalls and moments of unexpected grace. Most of all, it’s the story of hope and of love that you might benefit from at this time of the year.

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Aaron in 2020 Meet the Author

Aaron Milavec began his career as an innovative teacher and software developer. After devoting twenty-five years to the training of future priests and lay ministers, Milavec turned his attention to gender studies and the empowerment of women. For seven years (2007-2014) he collaborated with others in designing and operating Catherine of Siena Virtual College—an international, interactive center for the empowerment of women and men through online learning circles. In his free time, he gravitated towards primitive camping and hiking in the woods. He set up an art studio in his garage and won awards for his ceramic pottery in the Maya tradition. He became an avid participant in the Mankind Project. In his youth, Milavec was fascinated with science. After beginning graduate studies in physics, however, Milavec suffered an unexpected loss of faith in science. At that point, he gravitated toward the philosophy of science and ended up with an abiding passion for religious inquiry and spiritual development. While a Research Fellow at the University of Victoria, he completed an essay, “How Acts of Discovery Transform our Tacit Knowing Powers in both Scientific and Religious Inquiry,” Zygon 42/2 (2006) 465-486. Milavec earned his B.S. in physics from the University of Dayton, his S.T.B. from the University of Fribourg (Switzerland) in 1968 and his Th.D. from the Graduate Theological Union (Berkeley) in 1973. Milavec has published eighteen books, eight chapters in collected works, and sixty journal articles. His most recent book, What Jesus Would Say to Same-Sex Couples (2019) exposes the biblical and theological errors of the anti-gay Gospel found in Roman Catholicism and Evangelical Protestantism. For open discussion on this book, go to http://Jesus4Lesbians.com For additional eBooks, go to https://payhip.com/milavec For support of Pope Francis, go to http://SupportPopeFrancis.com

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Choose one to four eBooks.  Decide who you want to be your “reading partner.”  Decide which books you want to share with others who are on your “Christmas list.” 

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#1 Finding True Love Online is no easy road to travel.

 

 

 

I was where you are . . . facing my favorite holiday “alone” for yet another year.  In October, I tried a new dating site, MeetMindful.com, and only 3 out of 50 women responded to my welcoming messages.  Discouragement set in.

But here is the good news: I was to discover that three is all that was needed.  The quality of candidates here is outstanding.  And my discovery of my beloved Elena (an Italian living in China) as one of these three was so spectacular that I just spent $1207 for a round trip flight ticket, Cincinnati to Shanghai, arriving on 31 Jan 2017.

So, for those who are still looking and for those who stopped looking, I’d like to send you a red string wrapped around the eBook that tells about our mutual story on this dating site beginning 01 Nov 2016.  It’s a very personal story for both of us.  It’s filled with laughter and tears, with awesome pitfalls and moments of unexpected grace.  Most of all, it’s the story of hope and of love that you might benefit from at this time of the year.

So, for those who are still looking and for those who stopped looking, I’d like to send you a red string wrapped around our true life story.  It’s filled with laughter and tears, with awesome pitfalls and moments of unexpected grace.  Most of all, it’s the story of hope and of love that you might benefit from at this time of the year.

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#2 For fifty years, the vast majority of Roman Catholic priests and theologians have been forced into a reluctant silence when it comes to birth control, celibacy of priests, indulgences, ordination of women, and homosexuality. I myself, while teaching in Roman Catholic seminaries for twenty-five years, was required to keep a guarded silence on all these issues. But this reluctant obedience has not served me nor has it served those whom I helped prepare for lay and ordained ministry.

Pope Francis, for his part, has forthrightly warned our bishops against “the temptation to hostile inflexibility, that is, wanting to close oneself within the written word . . , within the law, within the certitude of what we know and not of what we still need to learn and to achieve” (source).   When this happens, “the bread” that Jesus blesses and gives to his disciples is transformed “into a stone” that is either “cast against the sinners” or it is carried by them as an “unbearable burden” (Luke 11:46).

By way of atoning for my years of silence, I have prepared this book in order to equip my former students and all those faithful Catholics who are interested in sorting out the wheat from the chaff within current Catholic teaching. What you discover herein will supply you with clear, strong, and compelling case studies that can be used to open up informed and reliable explorations on topics that have largely been obscured by authoritative pronouncements, by shoddy biblical scholarship, and by ignorance of Catholic history.

Whether you want to speak to your teenage daughter or to your bishop, these case studies offer talking points that will enable you to make sense out of the faith that is intended to nourish us, to make us free, and to draw us into harmony with the Spirit of Christ.

 

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#3 In the traditional teaching of the churches, Eve gets named as the companion of Adam who coaxes him to sin against God.  This fall from grace afflicts the human race until the end of time.   Eve is the “tool of the devil” that betrays her husband.

The purpose of this book is to enable you to read the hidden clues in the text of Gen 1-3 in order to discover the “original meaning” of the text .  In so doing, you will be surprised to discover that the “original meaning” differs strongly from what the churches have been teaching.    Examples:

  1. When the text of Gen 2-3 is examined, Eve’s “fall from grace” is never mentioned.  On the contrary, the eating of the fruit of “the tree of the knowledge of good and evil” is associated with wondrous super powers: “their eyes were opened” (Gen 3:5, 7).  This is all the more wondrous in so far as these transformations enable Eve and Adam to see things clearly as God sees them.  Far from being a “fall,” therefore, Eve’s eating enables her to become “like God” (Gen 3:6, 22).
  2.  Classical theology speaks of Eve as being deceived by the devil who was bent upon the destruction of Adam.  The “serpent” described in the text is never associated with the “devil” at any point.  Rather, you will discover that the “serpent” functions as a spirit-guide within ancient Middle Eastern culture.  Far from deceiving Eve, this “serpent” is assuredly a truth-teller: “You will not die [when you eat this fruit]; for God knows that when you eat of it your eyes will be opened, and you will be like God, knowing good and evil” (Gen 3:5-6).  And, according to the story of Genesis, this is exactly what happens.
  3. Adam, meanwhile, has been telling Eve that God said, “You shall not eat of the fruit of the tree that is in the middle of the garden, nor shall you touch it, or you shall die” (Gen 3:3).  When Eve touches the fruit, however, nothing happens.  Adam clearly is mistaken.  So, she eats it.  And the eating has wondrous effects.  Thus, Eve exposes the errors of Adam on both counts.  We can even surmise that Eve trusted God to be a gentle and wise parent who would never cultivate a poisonous fruit tree in his garden if he knew that he was endangering the life of his children.  Adam, strange to say, never took the time to explore the deep contradictions between what God told him [“you will die”] and what the serpent told Eve [“you will be like God”].
  4.  According to the Genesis account, Eve and Adam are expelled from the Garden.  According to the prevailing theology of the churches, this expulsion takes place due to God abhorrence of their grave sin [the “original sin”] that God was seemingly unable or unwilling to forgive.  The text itself provides quite another explanation: “The LORD God said, ‘See, the man has become like one of us, knowing good and evil; and now, he might reach out his hand and take also from the tree of life, and eat, and live forever,’ therefore the LORD God sent him forth from the garden of Eden” (Gen 3:22-23).  In effect, therefore, God has planted not one but two empowering trees: “the tree of the knowledge of good and evil” and “the tree of eternal life.”  Having been empowered by eating of the former tree, God figures that it would just be a matter of time before his children ate of the latter tree that would seemingly make them “live forever” just as God does.
  5. God intended his children to be mortal.  The text specifies this intention clearly, “You are [made out of] dust, and to dust you shall return” (Gen 3:19).  Hence, contrary to traditional theology, Adam and Eve were never designed for immortality, but their sin caused God to change his mind.  The text says that God assigns the immortal “cherubim” the task of “guard[ing] the way to the tree of life” (Gen 3:24).  Here again the text indicates clearly that “sin” was not an issue here; rather, protection of the “tree of life” was God’s primary concern. 
  6. It is instructive that Eve and Adam and all their children lived nearly a thousand years.  If we trust the bible when it teaches us that a long life is a sign of God’s blessing, then we have to conclude that Eve and Adam were wondrously blessed with long lives.  God had no cause to curse them, and he was surely not unable or unwilling to forgive his children for some imagined “grave sin.”  The pangs of childbearing are cursed and the sweat from tilling the soil is cursed—but God never once curses his children.  In fact,  just before leaving Eden, God gave both his children a very necessary gift.  Maybe you know what that gift might be.
  7. Why do Adam and Eve suddenly become aware that they are naked after eating the prescious fruit of the first tree?  Why do they hide from each other and hide from God?  The answer to this key question will amaze you.  Do you already have a hunch?

My book is an easy read.  It demontrates step-by-step how a research theologian like myself works to uncover the “original meaning” of the text of Genesis.  Then, as an extra treat, my book goes on to show why and how church teachers of the 2nd century deliberately covered over the image of Eve as the “pioneer of Adam’s salvation” in favor of presenting Eve as the “gateway of the devil bent on corrupting Adam and all his children.” 

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#4 Like Kevin Kukla, I am a cradle-Catholic.  I grew up in Euclid, Ohio, and my parents made certain that I attended a Catholic grade school and Catholic high school.  Then I myself chose to attend a Catholic university and two Catholic graduate schools in theology.  I was an altar server for fifty years and gained a robust gratitude for the power of Holy Orders and for the sacramental presence of Christ in the Eucharist.  I mastered Theistic theology and then went on to master Neothomism and revisionist theologies that erupted following Vatican II.  I trained future Catholic priests and lay ministers in three different seminaries for twenty-five years. 

I know and I love the Church, warts and all.  However, I also learned that our Holy Mother the Church can be calloused and mean-spirited when it came time to consider issues of sexual conduct.  Contrary to the orientation of Kevin Kukla, I am persuaded that the Catholic hierarchy has “almost never gotten it right on issues of sexual ethics.”  For me “to serve the Lord,” therefore, I need to expose and challenge Kevin’s historical ignorance, his defective biblical interpretations, and his philosophical errors.  This challenge is not so much for Kevin’s sake but for the sake of honest Catholics everywhere who have needlessly suffered due to the cruel and misguided “pastoral guidance” of “super Catholics” like Kevin Kukla.

This book is not just an academic debate.  Rather it represents the opportunity to listen to two committed Catholics passionate about living and improving the sexual guidance given by our Holy Mother, the Church.

 

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#5 Meeting real women in your own hometown is haphazard at best. It is also massively time-consuming. Online, women reach out to you every time you open your mailbox. These women can communicate with candor and directness that is nearly impossible in real life situations. But the dark side is also there. Someone can use fake pictures and borrow words of love stolen from others online. One can even receive “faked” Red Cross identity papers and “faked” passports confirming the identity of the sender. So what is one to do?

If you don’t play with this fire, you will never get burnt. Nor will you ever enjoy engaging conversations with woman who you’d never meet in your limited social circles.  Millions of men and women are linking up every day using the internet. Success stories abound. In a study of marriages celebrated 2005-2012, researchers discovered that a whopping 35% of Americans initially met their love-match online. So what does one do?

I advise you: “Go for it! But walk softly and carry this book so that  you will spot the frauds and avoid the scams.”  With my help, you will not foolishly lose your money and you will not needlessly break your heart.  Moreover, you will have the satisfaction of progressively mastering basic skills for uncovering the “truth” and for bringing local law enforcers and the FBI to take action on your behalf (should you need them).

Excerpt from Case One: Nurse Juliet Begs to Visit

I felt some bitterness for a few days. I had been “a love-sick dude” who lost his good judgment because of the attractive words in an email. Had I learned a lesson? Yes and no.   This was only my first encounter with fraud. I didn’t yet have any way of knowing to what degree dating sites were plagued by deeply entrenched and cleverly disguised systemic fraud. But I was a detective, and I knew “what evil lurks in the hearts of men.”[i]  So fasten your seat belts, my dear reader, and get ready for the ride of your life. . . .

[i] https://en.wikiquote.org/wiki/The_Shadow

PS: I thank Aaron Milavec for allowing me to post my book on his site.   ~~Adam Rose

 

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#6 Rosie says:

When it came time to planning how to lose my virginity, I was keen to have the best guidance possible. Hands down, Beth F. is sharp as a tack when it comes to inter-personal issues. Beth also happens to be my best friend, so I have no hesitation to speak openly with her because she will never needlessly shame me or silence me. We roomed together three years in college. We rejoiced together and cried together during these years. Between us, there were no secrets.

Here is the plan we hatched together. I was going to use an internet dating site and to find someone special who was willing not only to pop my cherry but to be emotionally and physically intimate with me for a period of a few months. In brief, it made no sense to just have sex once or twice with a good man. It had to be GREAT SEX, and great sex, so I thought, cannot take place unless there is emotional, spiritual, and physical intimacy.

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Meet the Author

Aaron Milavec began his career as an innovative teacher and software developer.  After devoting twenty-five years to the training of future priests and lay ministers, Milavec turned his attention to gender studies and the empowerment of women.  For seven years (2007-2014) he collaborated with others in designing and operating Catherine of Siena Virtual College—an international, interactive center for the empowerment of women and men through online learning circles.  In his free time, he gravitated towards primitive camping and hiking in the woods.  He set up an art studio in his garage and won awards for his ceramic pottery in the Maya tradition.  He became an avid participant in the Mankind Project.

In his youth, Milavec was fascinated with science.  After beginning graduate studies in physics, however, Milavec suffered an unexpected loss of faith in science.  At that point, he gravitated toward the philosophy of science and ended up with an abiding passion for religious inquiry and spiritual development.  While a Research Fellow at the University of Victoria, he completed an essay, “How Acts of Discovery Transform our Tacit Knowing Powers in both Scientific and Religious Inquiry,” Zygon 42/2 (2006) 465-486.

Milavec earned his B.S. in physics from the University of Dayton, his S.T.B. from the University of Fribourg (Switzerland) in 1968 and his Th.D. from the Graduate Theological Union (Berkeley) in 1973.

Milavec has published eighteen books, eight chapters in collected works, and sixty journal articles.  His most recent book, What Jesus Would Say to Same-Sex Couples (2019) exposes the biblical and theological errors of the anti-gay Gospel found in Roman Catholicism and Evangelical Protestantism.

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Reviews for MY ANGEL OF GOD

Here are the first twenty unedited reviews prepared by writers registered with FanStory.com.  Writers choose which works they wish to review.  My first response to the review is also included.  Subsequent exchanges are deleted for the sake of simplicity.  At the bottom of this page, your comments are invited.

 

Comment from lyenochka

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Rating of Prologue – Forward
As I never was Catholic, I don’t quite relate to praying to a Guardian Angel. (Why go to the messenger when you can talk directly to God?) And I was shocked at your father and aunt for the insensitive comments to a child at the funeral. So the most moving part of this post for me was:
“his woman enabled me to cry long-delayed tears and to vent my festering anger against God. “I trusted her with my tears. . .” (p. 4) and, by slow measured steps, I gradually entrusted her with healing my afflicted heart.”

 Comment Written 18-Mar-2020


reply by the author on 18-Mar-2020

Dear Lyenochka,

Thanks for sharing your own starting point and for identifying the most moving lines. I was tempted to delete these very lines, because they reveal what is going to come later. Now, however, I see that this preview of things to come is an attractive and necessary part of my Forward. Would you agree?

Aaron

Comment from royowen

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I’m a Christian but not a great believer that prays through an angel, Jesus has always, for me at least, been the advocate, of course He has earned His position, as the Shepherd of God’s people, but your story invokes my interest. Well done, your anger is understandable. Well done, blessings, Roy
 Comment Written 18-Mar-2020


reply by the author on 18-Mar-2020Dear Roy,

Thanks for sharing your own starting point and for identifying with my anger: “your story invokes my interest. Well done, your anger is understandable.”

Yes, the blessings are to come,
Aaronreply by royowen on 19-Mar-2020Never angry at other?s beliefs reply by the author on 19-Mar-2020
Thank you for your kind and encouraging words. ~Aaron
reply by royowen on 19-Mar-2020Welcome

Comment from Earl Corp

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My wife believes very much in guardian angels and I’m going to share this prayer with her. You piqued my interest enough that I’m going to read chapter one, which was the job the forward was supposed to do. Very nice job.
 Comment Written 18-Mar-2020


reply by the author on 18-Mar-2020OK, Earl, I’m going to conclude that my Forward tells just enough to capture your interest. Have I understood you correctly?

If your wife a Catholic? If not, how did it come about that she believes in angels?

Peace and

Aaronreply by Earl Corp on 19-Mar-2020Your conclusion is dead on. My wife isn’y Catholic and I don’t know how she came to believe in Angels.reply by the author on 19-Mar-2020
Thank you for your kind and encouraging words. ~Aaron

Comment from Miranda Langston

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Rating of Chapter 5 – Distressing News
this is a very well-written chapter and it is so sweet ^.^ i almost cried when i read the bit about you and your angel wiping each other’s tears away. *sniffle* it’s absolutely heart-melting. well done, man. keep writing
 Comment Written 17-Feb-2020


reply by the author on 17-Feb-2020Dear Miranda,

Thanks for being so transparent in your review. That is so precious for me to hear.

I couldn’t ask a total stranger, but I find we have established a certain comfort zone with each other. Here are two questions that continue to unsettle me:

#1 Did I fail to protect my Angel’s interests? Did I give up too much? Should I have asked my Angel to insist on a restaurant meeting once a month? Tim might not like this; yet, he has to allow that his wife is suffering greatly with his “no contact” call. Doesn’t her welfare deserve some close attention as well?

Moreover, in the face of such a one-sided resolution, doesn’t Tim take a fatal step that risks his future with his wife? Won’t the day perhaps arrive when my Angel will see his demands as selfish and manipulative? Then what? He gained the lion’s share, but the lioness sets out to hunt on her own. So by gaining everything, was he risking to lose everything? [#2 How would you advise Tim?]

Searching for clarity in my life,
Aaron

Comment from Gypsy Blue Rose

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Rating of Chapter 5 – Distressing News
Hello, Aaron,

“I crossed seas of time to find you” Dracula

I love that quote and the story.

Awesome job with this chapter. I know what you mean in more ways than one.

Excellent job. Write on…

Gypsy
 Comment Written 17-Feb-2020


reply by the author on 17-Feb-2020Be sure to use this in your love story that is in the making:

“I crossed seas of time to find you” Dracula

Comment from Ricky1024

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Rating of Chapter 5 – Distressing News
“Distressing News”
This chapter was interesting and well written.
Rich in Theme and Imagery.

It read well and flowed well with no Grammar Issues.

The Adjective and Objective Contents were both Excellent and Exceptional while Descriptive Measures aligned Perfectly.
Thanks,
Doctor Ricky 1024
 Comment Written 16-Feb-2020


reply by the author on 16-Feb-2020Hello, Dr. Ricky,

I’m thankful, as always, for your time and attention.
I couldn’t ask anyone else, but I find we have established a certain comfort zone with each other. Here are my three questions:
#1 Did I fail to protect my Angel’s interests? Did I give up too much? Should I have asked my Angel to insist on a restaurant meeting once a month? Tim might not like this; yet, he has to allow that his wife is suffering greatly with his “no contact” call. Doesn’t her welfare deserve some close attention as well?

Moreover, in the face of such a one-sided resolution, doesn’t Tim take a fatal step that risks his future with his wife? Won’t the day perhaps arrive when my Angel will see his demands as selfish and manipulative? Then what? He gained the lion’s share, but the lioness sets out to hunt on her own. So by gaining everything, was he risking to lose everything? [#2 How would you advise Tim?]

#3 And what do you make of the final paragraphs where my Angel and I wipe away each other’s tears and have no need, accordingly, to get in the long line where God (not Jesus) does the final healing?

Sincerely,
Aaron

Comment from gingermo

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Rating of Chapter 4 – Magic Spells to & from Neuchatel
I find your writing unusual, poetic, romantic and subtlety sexy. I myself an a down to earth person when it comes to relationships so I can appreciate your romantic nature which comes through in your writing. At times I was overwhelmed by the sheer expression of feeling. Soul mates do exist and I hope Angel is yours. I found the abrupt introduction of Your wife Rachel and the fact Angel had a husband rather disconcerting. Perhaps they were mentioned in another chapter. The intervening poetry is effective in that it deepens the emotions and breaks up the prose.
 Comment Written 15-Feb-2020


reply by the author on 15-Feb-2020Dear Ginger,

Thanks for your devoted attention to my work.

At times I was overwhelmed by the sheer expression of feeling. >> This is encouraging for me.

Soul mates do exist and I hope Angel is yours. >> Indeed, as the next chapter will make clear.

I found the abrupt introduction of Your wife Rachel and the fact Angel had a husband rather disconcerting.>> And well it should be. Yet, life has its unusual twists. My Angel, as you understand from the letters, has been visiting my family and even taking my daughter alone to her grandma’s birthday party. I love the part where, on the way home, my daughter is singing a song of one leg to the other.

Peace and joy in writing,
Aaron

Comment from Ricky1024

Excellent
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Rating of Chapter 4 – Magic Spells to & from Neuchatel
“Magic Spells to @ from Neuchatel”
This read well and was rather lengthy but we’ll written.
Rich in Theme and Imagery.

The Adjective and Objective Contents were both Excellent and Exceptional while Descriptive Measures aligned Perfectly.
Thanks,
Doctor Ricky 1024

 Comment Written 15-Feb-2020


reply by the author on 15-Feb-2020Oh, Dr. Ricky, thanks for your time and attention. Here is an issue that I need your help with:

Should I stop this chapter here:

My Angel has passed the point of no return. She writes, “I became totally open and unafraid of the love I have for you. . . . Once again my body quivers as it thinks of you returning.” Oh, yes! Come to me, my faithful Angel, my burning comet, my gift of God!

Or, should I keep my reflections on Drucula and Minah just where they are???

Peace in writing,
Aaron

PS: Please send me the internet address as soon as you post your love story.

Comment from Suzanna Ray

Exceptional
This work has reached the exceptional level

Rating of Chapter 4 – Magic Spells to & from Neuchatel
Dear author, This post takes the reader, vicariously, though every emotion, through every fantasy that your protagonist experience!
Thank you for the warning that this would be a long read, because it was! . . .But worth every moment.
I am amazed that you could imagine, much less continue to express such high levels of passion through this epic. That alone deserves the six stars I have awarded you!
 Comment Written 14-Feb-2020


reply by the author on 15-Feb-2020Dear Suzanna,

I my admit to you that I was discouraged. Why so? This chapter was too long. No one would be willing to read it. I’m just not able to take our personal story and make it an engaging story.

Your review renewed my hope! There are tears in my eyes now. I am more than I can say attached to this woman (my Angel) and attached to our story. When you say “It was worth every moment,” I become a believer again.

One last issue haunts me. Should I stop this chapter here:

My Angel has passed the point of no return. She writes, “I became totally open and unafraid of the love I have for you. . . . Once again my body quivers as it thinks of you returning.” Oh, yes! Come to me, my faithful Angel, my burning comet, my gift of God!

Or, should I keep my reflections on Drucula and Minah just where they are??? What do you say?

Very, very gratefully,
Aaron

Comment from Ricky1024

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Rating of Chapter 3 – Dark Hole Left by my Lost Mother
Dark Hole Left by my Lost Mother”
Was well written and rich in Theme and Imagery.
It read well and flowed well with no Grammar Issues.

Complete Synopsis:
The Adjective and Objective Contents were both Excellent and Exceptional while Descriptive Measures aligned Perfectly.
Thanks,
Doctor Ricky 1924
 Comment Written 10-Feb-2020


reply by the author on 10-Feb-2020Thank you for your reflections and encouragement, Dr. Ricky.
~Aaron

Comment from Aaqib Naeem

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Rating of Chapter 3 – Dark Hole Left by my Lost Mother
A wonderful writing to read! Your writing reflects deep understanding and maturity in many ways. I really loved reading your work. I hope you’ll be able to have your own place in here. God bless and wish you luck!!
 Comment Written 10-Feb-2020


reply by the author on 10-Feb-2020Amazing, Aaqib. I posted this only 20 minutes ago and, already, you have sent me insightful and encouraging words.

I wrote:

I deliberately crafted this story to take on the form of a “fairy tale” that I learned from my mother. My story, consequently, has some fanciful and magical elements that serve to highlight how I, as a young boy, experienced the events surrounding the death of my mother.

Should I just tell the story and drop this explanation? What do you think?

Namaste,
Aaronreply by Aaqib Naeem on 10-Feb-2020It was an honour to review your work! I always love this Dracula type stuff! Yes, you should include that explanation in Author Notes. I always like to read them as they are pretty insightful at times! reply by the author on 10-Feb-2020Yowzer, Aaqib. Your enchanted by Dracula tales. As my love story unfolds, your blood-thirst will be entirely satisfied. ~Aaronreply by Aaqib Naeem on 10-Feb-2020Haha it sure will! I am watching the Van Helsing season on Netflix these days. Plenty of blood thirst for me! 🙂

Comment from Patty Palmer

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Very interesting. I will have to watch for your book. How sad you lost your mother at such a young age. I believe we all have a guardian angel who watches over us. I think my guardian angel should get a raise because with me she must work a lot of overtime!
God bless!
Patty
 Comment Written 10-Feb-2020


reply by the author on 10-Feb-2020My story of loss is just hinted at here. My Angel was to meet this little lost boy and to give him the tears of anger and grief that were denied him forty years earlier. This takes place in Ch3 (which I just posted).

Thanks for your interest,
Aaron

Comment from Bill Pinder

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Rating of Chapter 2 – A Father Embraces his Daughter
I like this chapter that was written well with a clear expression of the experiences and evokes a lot of genuine emotion between the main characters. Thanks for sharing. I think you meant to say “being unloaded” instead of “been.”

I like that line about being able to love someone even though you understand that in some ways they are broken.
Bill
 Comment Written 09-Feb-2020


reply by the author on 09-Feb-2020Thank you, Bill, for your kind and encouraging words.

Is this the line?

text = Half-way through his sickness, he also gave up his binge drinking. Liquor had been used extensively as solace following his sick leave from the police force. But now he was actually apologizing to me for the bad effects his drinking had on his family.

Joy in improving,
Aaron

Comment from Aaqib Naeem

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Rating of Chapter 2 – A Father Embraces his Daughter
I really loved reading your such a beautiful story. You’ve conveyed your message in a wonderful way. You’re possessed with amazing skills of writing. Lots of luck. God bless you!
 Comment Written 09-Feb-2020


reply by the author on 09-Feb-2020Thank you, Aaqib, for your kind and encouraging words.

Namaste,
Aaron

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This lady as a child had a lot going on in her life. And not all was good, yet she was able to finally understand and make it good. This was a very deep story, and I’ll have to catch up with the other parts. This part was really touching. Well done. :)) Sandra xx
 Comment Written 09-Feb-2020


reply by the author on 09-Feb-2020I agree entirely. Her vulnerability prepared me for my vulnerability (Ch3).

Joy in writing,
Aaron

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This is an intriguing story that isn’t something that is easy to get into without going back to read the first part, which I intend to do. It sounds as if this is only the second meeting the teller of the story has had with some referred to as “my angel” which leaves me wondering how she came to be referred to in such romantic terms so quickly. It sounds as though she is talking to a psychiatrist or someone who is there to help her sort out her feeling. Maybe you could give more details of what has taken place for those just joining your story and for those readers who may not have time to go back to the beginning. I want to read more.
 Comment Written 08-Feb-2020


reply by the author on 08-Feb-2020Dear Beth,

Thanks for diving into Ch2. You have persuaded me that an introduction is a necessity.

Any comments on my cover design?

Or on the mind-bending last line here?

text = For the last two days, I have wanted to tell you how much our [second] meeting meant to me. I also have been struggling to understand its depth of meaning for it was the most powerful and the most satisfying moment of my life thus far.

Peace and joy in writing,
Aaronreply by BethShelby on 09-Feb-2020I did go back and read the other two entry and now I no more of what is going on. Maybe just put enough in you author notes to make things clear to new readers.reply by BethShelby on 09-Feb-2020I think the cover picture is perfect. I would probably prefer a darker band above and below and maybe the title in white or lighter but that’s just me. I like the last sentence. It makes the reader want more.reply by the author on 09-Feb-2020A darker band above and below the photo is a good suggestion. I did make a cover like this for my dad. Thanks, again, Beth for your helpful ideas. ~~Aaronreply by BethShelby on 09-Feb-2020 You are welcome. I look forward to reading more.

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Rating of Prologue – Forward
Wow, this is a powerful piece. I love the line “I trusted her with my tears”. To find someone who you can trust with your emotions, especially ones you were told not to show is amazing. Thank you for sharing.
 Comment Written 07-Feb-2020


reply by the author on 07-Feb-2020Dear K.

I missed the evocative power of that line. But now you allowed me to see it’s significance. My dad taught me to suppress my emotions:

text = the little boy whose father had taught him that he should not cry after the funeral because “God put an end to her suffering, and she is now very happy to be with God in heaven.”

Chapter 3 will treat this in great detail. Is it a mistake to put this in the Forward? How would you advise me here?

Peace and joy in writing,
Aaron reply by K Dono on 07-Feb-2020In my opinion, I think it is good to have it in the forward. It is a great lead in and a capture point. reply by the author on 07-Feb-2020PS: I will be uploading two new chapters for the next three days. Your insights are invaluable. Stay with me if you can. ~Aaronreply by K Dono on 07-Feb-2020Will do, I will definitely check in

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Rating of Chapter 1 – Innocent Beginnings
“Innocent Beginnings”
Was well written and rich in Theme and Imagery.
It read well And flowed well with no Grammar Issues.

The Adjective and Objective Contents were both Excellent and Exceptional while Descriptive Measures aligned Perfectly.
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Doctor Ricky 1024
 Comment Written 07-Feb-2020


reply by the author on 07-Feb-2020Many thanks for your affirmations, Dr. Ricky.

How did you respond to the final paragraph? What emotions came up for you? When and why have you used the Guardian Angel Prayer?

text = Even if you were not raised by a Roman Catholic mother as I was, you might want to recite the Guardian Angel Prayer (p. 18) at bedtime during the period when you are reading about our dangerous love story. Who knows? In so doing, you might discover. . . .

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Almanac of Precious Ones

 

From the Almanac of Precious Ones
I choose recollections of my mother
sweetly scented with lilac powders
cultivating the roses in her garden.

I also choose my dear grandmother
who taught me to roll out Slovenian potica
and to make delicious soups on the fly.
She was the one who mothered me.

Then I would choose Carlie, my first love:
the girl who listened to my mind and heart
with a grace and intensity that melted my soul.
She was the one who loved my curiosity.

I must also choose the swift-moving river bass
that follow me under the keel of my canoe
through the crystal clear waters of Wolf Creek.
These are my joyful water companions.

Not to be forgotten are the chanting cicadas,
my short-lived Brothers singing out their life
along with honking Canadian geese flying south.
These will accompany me on my dying day.

I remember endlessly the hundred million stars
that spiral in our lofty Milky Way Galaxy
and send down flashes of meteor showers.
They clothe me in the vastness of our universe.

But, above all, I remember the One Who Made Me
and set me free from the fears that shackle others
in order to hold on to those dreams that chose me
and enable my soul wondrously to take flight.

For all these, I mightily give thanks, both today
and on all my tomorrows; I hold them as my
Almanac of Precious Ones who bless me
and who offer me bliss within the eternal quiet.

 

With love,

Aaron


2.20.20

 

Last night I wrote out a sort of life-long reassessment.  I went into my Almanac of Precious Ones and selected the top nine that shape my life as I immerse myself deeper within the eternal quiet.  As it happens, there are three beloved women, three natural creatures, and three cosmic forces. If you want to know the real me (the stripped down to the bones me), then you’ll have to explore with me these Precious Ones.

 

What might be your choices from your own personal Almanac of Precious Ones?  I could make some guesses, but I’d rather give you the complete freedom to identify them for yourself and then to tell me about them with unvarnished honesty. This would open up an entirely different way of getting to know each other deeply as unique individuals, as writers, as friends, as life companions, and, who knows, maybe even much more.

 

In anticipation of your arrival,
I remain your devoted servant,

Aaron